Un-Happy International Woman Day

Why Can’t Humans Just Be Together?

In an ideal world, we wouldn’t need specific days to remind us to be kind, inclusive, or aware. Humans have differences—cultural, ideological, historical—that should not create divisions.

From my point of view, differences alone are not the root cause of division.

Differences can be beautiful and enriching, but the lack of love and compassion often comes from something deeper.

Since ancient times, humans have been wired for survival. This means we often operate from fear—fear of the unknown, fear of loss, fear of not having enough. When people feel threatened (even unconsciously), we become defensive rather than open and loving.

The human ego thrives on identity and separation—“me vs. them,” “us vs. them.” The more we identify with labels (race, religion, nationality, status), the harder it is to see ourselves as one human family. The illusion of separateness keeps love from flowing freely.

Many people carry unhealed wounds from childhood, past relationships, or even generational trauma. A person who has not received love struggles to give love. Pain makes people guarded, cold, and distrustful.

Society conditions us to focus on competition over connection, materialism over meaning, and self-interest over unity. From childhood, we are often taught to chase success, status, and security rather than deep relationships, empathy, and kindness. Modern life keeps people distracted—social media, work stress, entertainment—so we rarely pause to feel or connect deeply. Without presence and awareness, love and compassion become afterthoughts. Humans often love conditionally: “I will love you if you agree with me, look like me, act like me.” True love is unconditional, but society often teaches us to judge instead of accept.

Some people and systems benefit from division—politics, media, corporations. When people are divided, they are easier to control and manipulate. Fear-based narratives keep people in survival mode, preventing deeper human connection.

Despite these barriers, love is our essence.

It’s not something we have to "learn,” but something we have to remember. The more we heal, become aware, and practice presence, the more natural it becomes to love without fear, connect without judgment, and embrace life with compassion.

What are the questions that I may ask?

Maybe the real question isn’t “Why are humans lacking love?” but “How can we help each other return to love?

Regarding the International Days and Diversity, Equity and Inclusion (‘DEI’) Efforts of corporate life,

Positive discrimination is still discrimination.

Why should I be defined by my gender, ethnicity, or background? Why should anyone? I don’t even know who the so-called 'majority' is. Yet, in the name of inclusivity, we keep reinforcing these labels.

I appreciate efforts to raise awareness—whether through AI-generated messages or corporate DEI initiatives—but do we ever stop to ask if these efforts are actually bringing people together?

Or are they making us more divided?

When DEI becomes just another corporate KPI (Key Performance Indicator), a box to check rather than a true cultural shift, does it really serve its purpose?

From what I’ve seen, many DEI policies aren’t about genuine inclusion; they’re about compliance. They create an illusion of fairness while often reducing individuals to categories. Why should we frame one group as ‘the empowered’ and another as ‘the disadvantaged in need of help’? Isn’t real equality about treating everyone with respect, without predefined narratives? Businesses exist to be profitable. And while we can’t control every bias or silent judgment, we can control how we show up and how we demand to be treated. True inclusion isn’t about policies—it’s about culture, mindset, and integrity. So maybe it’s time to rethink:

Are we actually fostering belonging, or are we just making division look more polite?

These international days help aim to bridge gaps by fostering empathy, education, and collective action. However, I don’t believe in so any more.

Wouldn't it be beautiful if we could embody this awareness every day, not just on designated ones?

Maybe the goal is to live in a way where these special days are no longer necessary.